BUILD SELF ESTEEM AND START SELF IMPROVEMENT

Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self improvement.

Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become darts, at one point or another. These darts will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in many different ways. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which darts should you avoid to increase your self esteem and feeling of well-being, which in turn leads to happiness?

Dart #1 : Negative Work Environment

Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you will end up over-worked and without any recognition or support from a negative workplace.

Competition is everywhere, but you need to be healthy enough to compete, and, more importantly in a healthy competition.

Dart #2: Other People’s Behaviour

Bulldozers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, … all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement scheme.

Dart #3: Changing Environment

Change can paralyze you with fear because it will take you into the unknown. It will attack your confidence level and challenge you. Be open to change and let it work for your self improvement. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Change will make life difficult for a while, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve ourselves. Change will be there forever, we must embrace it.

Dart #4: Past Experience

It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson. Learn from any experience whether good or bad.

Dart #5: Negative World View

Look with different eyes. Don’t wrap yourself up in all the negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of the worst situations. If you can begin to look for an upside to everything and be grateful for it - then there you have already found hope.

Dart #6: Determination Theory

The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your parent is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you never need to encounter the same mistakes.

Are some people born leaders or positive thinkers?
NO.

Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent.

Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. Its like a flame that should gradually spread like a bush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination.

So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self esteem?

Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living and thinking will help you build self esteem, your starter guide to self improvement.